Standing In Not Standing Out

I don't like to stand out. But I don't strive to be like everyone else either.

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I hope that makes sense.

For example, I'm an alto but the alto part is usually the harmony. If I can't pick out or even hear the harmony I will just sing soprano (or tenor). I don't always have the ear or the confidence to figure out the harmony as we sing together. (Yes, I recognize that confidence is something you build by doing the thing).

I'm not seeking to fit in for the sake of inclusion. I just don't want to wreck the good thing the group has going on (I do acknowledge the my perception may be skewed).

I usually default to the behind-the-scenes task work. I'm usually the person who will show up a little early and help with setting up. Or I'll stay longer to help with cleanup. I enjoy watching people interacting with one another and having a good time at functions. You don't have to feel bad about not talking to me a whole lot at a party or event.

I'm usually so glad you thought of me at all and will enjoy being present. I like to take notice of the work you put in and bask in your achievements. You're pretty awesome!

I never thought that my quirky preferences and introverted personality would be useful in business.

I've heard so much about how "you gotta get out there and talk to people." It seems that extroverts make better salespeople and influencers.

Well, I can assure you that if you're an introvert and you don't like to be the center of attention, you can be super successful in business.

While you do have to talk to people and make connections, you still get to make real friends in the process and can do the behind-the-scenes back office work. Your interactions can (and should) be genuine.

Being an introvert means that you are refreshed and renewed by spending time alone. Extroverts need time with people to gain their energy (so they can really struggle when business slows down).

If you're like me, you will enjoy celebrating others and feel privileged to share in their burdens without feeling the need to inject yourself every time.

You can do this, no matter your personality and preferences. There's a spot for you. ❤️

Resolved

We're just a few days into the new year and I'm hearing about everyone's resolutions.

Photo by Fuu J for Unsplash (recolored by me).

The biggest one I hear the most is to lose weight. It's a pretty big deal as we age. It's harder to lose weight as we get older and so many other changes happen that it's hard to keep track or stay on top of things.

I'm having my own weight battles, too. After not weighing myself for about a week, I was unpleasantly surprised by the number on the scale. And I'm sure it's more than the usual "holiday eating," but it's pretty scary to think that even with effort, the numbers might go in the "wrong" direction.

I can do one of a few things:

• Give up, since it's clear I can't do this healthy thing.
• Go much harder and be more strict with myself
• Keep going. Keeping a steady pace.

What do you think I choose?

I'm gonna keep going. I don't usually get caught up in making a new year's resolution because I'm the type of person that will make unrealistic goals and do waaay too much in the beginning then fizzle out. This approach isn't sustainable for me. I'm going to follow through with maintaining my small habits.

I'm going to take the next step as if nothing happened. Weight loss (like other things we strive for in life) is not linear. There are so many factors that contribute to your day-to-day numbers on the scale. Besides, though I'm heavier, I haven't gained any inches. My clothes still fit the same. 🤷‍♀️

Consistency will keep it trending downward. Small steps lead to the big changes. When you lose sight of that, you will fret. Don't forget that getting to your goal happens bit by bit. You will traverse hills and valleys throughout your journey. Starting the course will get you to your destination (not constantly starting and stopping or trying to sprint here and there).

I'm so grateful to be able to be at peace with myself in these moments. It has certainly taken much time and prayer for me to get to this place. ❤️

May you be blessed on your journey as well!

Time Flies

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Early this morning, I'm dropping off my boy at the airport.

We had such a good visit.

These years of having to visit with my kiddos and send them back have been difficult.

I've questioned whether my time with them was beneficial to them. I struggled with wanting more for them. And I've had a hard time understanding why God would give them to me, only to keep them from me full-time.

It is by God's grace that these send-offs have become easier over time. "See you later" really feels like we'll see each other again. And I've been able to see that my mothering (even from a distance) has been real and beneficial to my babies.

God also used the time spent apart to grow and develop me. I've learned so much over these years and I believe I'm better off for them as I am now.

I'm looking forward to future visits and all the things we'll get into!